When You Know Exactly What You Want And Who You Want To Be But Things Get In The Way, Written by Michelle Keldgord from BakingHow.
I am a single working mom of two young children. I would like to speak on “When You Know Exactly What You Want and Who You Want to Be But Things Get in The Way” as it is an issue I have had to learn to overcome.
As a working mother, sometimes it can feel impossible to reach my goals. I may know exactly what I wish to accomplish, but I don’t feel like I have the time or energy to do it. When my workday is over, I have to pick up my second “job” – being a mom.
Although I would never complain about taking care of my children, I think all moms can agree that it is overwhelming at times. Even when your schedule seems to be in order and you’re finally reaching your goals, something comes up – like a soccer game or a sick little one.
So how can a mom reach their goals and be exactly who they want to be? Here are a few key tips.
1. Be Patient
Moms, let me tell you something – it’s not going to be easy, but it is doable. You can achieve exactly what you want and be who you want.
You need to be patient with yourself, though. You might not be able to reach your goals overnight. You may not even be able to reach your goals as fast as your childless friends. And that’s okay.
The term “good things come to those who wait” isn’t just designed to make you feel good. It’s true. Be patient with yourself, and don’t give up when the going gets tough.
2. Have a Clear Plan of Action
Sure, you know what you want and who you want to be. But without a game plan, you may never reach your goals.
When setting up your plan of action, it is important to have smaller goals leading up to your big goal. This will act as motivation when you start to feel like your big goal is out of reach. Always reward yourself for the small wins.
3. Know Your Worth
When I became a mom, I initially felt like that’s all I could do. I didn’t want to spend too much time on myself, whether it was texting a friend back, going to get my hair done, or working a full shift.
Mom needs to realize that while you are a mother (and a good one at that!), you’re still a human being. You still have wants and needs, and you need to take care of yourself – and that includes reaching your goals.
When you focus more time on yourself and achieve what you want and who you want to be, you will be happier and more confident. And hey – your kids are watching your every move. They want their mom to be happy. When they see you happy and motivated, they will be, too.
4. Ask for Help
Don’t hesitate to ask others for help, either. As much as we like to believe, moms can’t do it all. While we’re the most underrated superheroes, a little backup never hurts, especially when reaching goals.
Get your tribe in order. If you have a partner, tell them you need them to take on cooking a few nights a week so you can stay late for work or go to the gym. Ask family members if they’ll help out for a couple of hours on the weekend so you can get more done.
Don’t let things get in the way of what you want and who you want to be. Set up a clear plan of action, ask for help when you need it, and know your worth. Most importantly, be patient. It may be a long, rocky road, but you can do it, supermom.